I would like to properly introduce myself. My name is LaToya Déshawn Smith and I have been walking this celibacy journey for almost five years now. If I can be completely frank, that was never my intention.

Fall of 2018 I wrote a blog “Single Christian Girl in the City”and it was a hit. Tons of emails and comments flowed after it was posted. The unbelievable amount of women, Christian women! That were feeling the exact same way was strange yet comforting all at once. A tribe of women emerged desiring the road map to navigating these dating streets. Especially, while trying to maintain a holy lifestyle. Swerving the potholes can damage a sister! I’ve said it before and I am saying it again, “May the odds be forever in our favor ladies.”

Honestly, like so many single Christian women before me that made a vow of celibacy; a godly marriage was soon to follow. In fact, I have seen it occur first hand for so many women. Except for me. I have read all the books, attended all the seminars, listened over and over to the sermons and still I am single. What am I doing wrong?